Tenet # 3 | Lead (Be THE Man!)

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What A Woman Really Wants

Have you ever been with a girlfriend trying to decide what to eat? She asks you, and you mention that you don’t care what you get. It seems like it isn’t a big deal, but you are making a huge mistake by not giving your opinion. Woman enjoy going along for the ride. They want to do what is fun and in the moment. It is a masculine trait to take what you want. Women find this very attractive. Here are some tips and techniques you can implement when trying to attract a women that you just met.

Go Up To Her

I talked about this in the 1st Tenet of approaching. When you see the girl from across the room then go up and introduce yourself. It does not matter who she is with or what she is doing. If your perfect “10” walked up to you when you were walking down the street with your earphones in, would you give her the time of day? If you know that you are valuable and have a lot to offer a woman then you should not worry about bothering or interrupting her. I have had many women tell me that most guys will not go up to them if they are in a big group of females or with guy friends. Women find it confident as hell if you can approach them with others around. Confidence is the number one thing that attracts girls!

Be Physical

This one is really difficult for a lot of guys. Most of us are afraid to be rejected or think that the girl will get pissed off if we touch her. I used to be “that” guy that wanted to respect women. I told myself that I am doing her a favor by allowing her to kiss me when she wants. I was being gentlemanly. We are taught this from a young age. It is okay to take her by the hand and lead her to a table after 2 minutes of talking to her. Girls respond to the emotion of the moment. If you pick her up and swing her around then you are providing those fun emotions. She will become more drawn to you.

Understand What “No” Means

The other day I was chasing my little girl cousin around the house. She was yelling no and telling me to stop it each time I ran after her. I soon as I decided to stop, she would creep right back up next to me with the biggest smile on her face. Why was she doing this? She didn’t like being chased, but she liked that I wanted to chase her.

“It is better to ask for forgiveness than for permission.”

This is a somewhat sensitive topic, but I am going to make it crystal clear for you. If a girl gives you a “No!” with a serious look on her face then STOP! Do not be afraid to go in for the kiss or lead her to a quieter place. Girls like being hit on because it feeds their ego and tells them that they are wanted. As soon as she tells you that she is not interested, then back off dude.

Persistence Principle

Most guys are oblivious to when a girl is not interested. Rather it is a lack of empathy or alcoholic intoxication, some guys just can’t read a lack of interest. Similarly, some guys give up way too easily if the girl is not smiling and all over them. By a rule of thumb, if she is standing in front of you listening then she is interested. Also, if a girl does not seem to like you early on in the night or the first time you met her, it doesn’t mean that it is over.

The first time I went up to my girlfriend, she laughed at me and walked away (Partly cause I had 2 bottles of wine & I was being arrogant). If I was like most guys, then the next time I saw her I would have not went up to her at all. I would have thought that she has already rejected me once so why try? Firstly, I wasn’t being my real self the first time I met her and you would be surprised how little girls will remember your first interactions with them.

By a rule of thumb, give yourself three strikes. If you go up to the girl 3 times and she denies you each time then I would cut your losses. Do not give up so easily though. Often times, a girl will reject you as a test to see if it phases you. Her tests can be subtle comments or straight insults to you. Either way, don’t let it phase you. However, if a girl looks at you and says she is not interested or tells you to flat out, “Go away!” then get the message. There are plenty of women and there is no need to waste your time on one woman that isn’t interested. In fact, if you go off and talk to other women, it will most likely make the original girl interested in you.

Check out this video where I discuss how to “be a man”

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